Blog award

Relentless and sugarspring passed on  the Versatile Blogger Award to me. Thank you guys. I had to get out of my lazy shell to do this. So here goes;

First the rules;

1. Thank the blogger that nominated me.
2. Share 7 Random facts about myself
3. Nominate 15 bloggers who are relatively new to blogging
4. Let the nominated bloggers know they have been nominated

Okay, so I've done number 1, now on to number 2.

7 random facts about ay 

1). I looove 'love'. I tend to hide this a lot, but I really am a sucker for love. It's not uncommon to find me seated in a corner, my eyes glued to the TV or my laptop, watching a really good romantic movie and having streaks of tears run down my face (while I struggle to hide the tears, of course!!).  I don't know, it's just...*sigh*..

2)  I'm a very finicky eater. Quite honestly, I'm hard to please in the food department. I frustrated my parents a lot when I was young..lol.. I remember every morning before leaving for school they'll present me with various breakfast choices, but I always had one issue or the other with the food. Bread was something/is still something I'm very picky with. In frustration, my dad sometimes said, "Don't worry, we'll open your own bread factory for you"

3) In secondary school I had this crush on Zeal from Stylplus, but I'm well over that now..

4) Daydreaming is my favourite pasttime...:)

5) I wish I could be so many things at the same time- an award winning singer, best selling author, great scientist, Supermodel, Minister of Health, Professor of Clinical Pharmacy, Supermom and Masterchef  (in my dreams..lol)

6) There's nothing that melts my heart more than seeing an elderly couple in love..  (oh, I mentioned before that I looove 'love', right?) I know this couple- quite close to my family, that even in their seventies called each other by a pet name and shared kisses with each other, until the man died about 3 years ago...;( Their love was really an inspiration to everyone who saw them together.

7). Before publishing each new blog post, I fret just a bit (or too much, who knows?)..."will people like it/hate it, will an anonymous person insult me, will people leave comments, or am I just talking to myself?".. basically what I'm just trying to say is- Paranoia is just my thing...smh


So, who am I nominating oh..(thinking to myself)..for now I will nominate only a few bloggers, cos I don't really know a lot of 'relatively' new bloggers.;

Mayoress of casterbridge
Rainbowlove
PRISCYSWORLD
Life in Stages

I guess I broke the rules. Well, that's all..for now

See ya later.

Anne and Maya

Sometime ago, I bought two books online from the then Kasuwa.com that is now Jumia.com. It was my first time buying stuff online. At first I sought only a book I have always wanted to read, “Anne Frank: The Diary of a young girl”, and then came across Maya Angelou’s “Letter to my daughter” and so just for the sake of having a more varied collection of books, I chose the book. By then I had never read any of Maya’s work, but I had heard a lot about her.

My books were delivered to me within two weeks and I was impressed by the service rendered, by the way.

The first time I got to know about the book, Anne frank, was when I watched the movie, ‘Freedom writers’, and for some reason I was curious to know what it was all about. And then later I got to watch the movie and it was a really emotional one from me. For those who don’t know it is actually a true-life story and this young girl, Anne Frank was a Jewish girl who loved to write and wrote in her diary during the Holocaust. I haven’t got around to reading the book yet, but from the movie I know so much of the story and it reminded me of all those other similar holocaust movies I’ve watched where Jews were imprisoned and later killed (by the way I don't even really understand those Germans. How did they think they could wipe out a whole race of Jewish people..smh..). I remember especially, The Boy in Striped Pyjamas (also based on a book)...a really sad one.

The part that really got to me in the Anne Frank movie was when Anne desperately wanted to write and she tried to bribe her own mother with her only piece of bread, so she could help her find a pencil and paper to write on. Anne later died from being sick, as well as her mother and sister. Her dad was the only survivor. It was when the war ended, he laid hold of Anne's diary and encouraged by people, finally published it in 1947 as an edited version.

When I saw my package from Kasuwa, I was happy and immediately started reading, "Letter to my daughter". Needless to say I practically finished the book the night of that same day, It is a collection of articles, essays and poems written by Maya. There was so much wisdom in each sentence and I learnt a lot. I guess I’ll be purchasing more of her books in the future. The book is not just for girls/women, it’s for everyone. Since then I’ve been hooked on Maya and I’ve researched a bit on her and found some of the great quotes she has made and books she has written. Anyways, before I go let me leave you guys with one of the essays/ a speech from the book. This one in particular touched me and seemed just appropriate for the stage in my life I am in now. It is a commencement address. Here goes;


Commencement Address

And now the work begins
And now the joy begins
Now the years of preparation
Of tedious study and
Exciting learning
are explained.

The jumble of words and
Tangle of great and small ideas
Begin to take order and
This morning you can see
A small portion of the large
Plan of your futures.

Your hours of application,
The hopes of your parents,
And the labor of your instructors
Have all brought this moment
Into your hands.

Today, you are princesses and princes
Of the morning.
Ladies and Lords of the summer
You have shown the most
Remarkable of all virtues
For today as you sit
Wrapped in earned robes,
Literally or figuratively,
I see you filled with courage.
For although you might all
Be bright, intellectually astute,
You have had to use courage
To arrive at this moment.
You may be,

As you are often described,
Privileged, which of course means
Wealthy, or you have been born into an ongoing struggle with need.
In either case, you have had to develop
An outstanding courage to
Invent this moment.

Of all your attributes, youth,
Beauty, wit, kindness, mercy,
Courage is your greatest
Achievement,
For you, without it, can practice no other
Virtue with consistency.

And now that you have shown
That you are capable of manufacturing
That most wondrous virtue,

You must be asking yourselves,
What you will do with it.
Be assured that question
Is in the minds of your
Elders, your parents, and strangers
Who do not know your names.
Your fellow students who
Next year, or in the years to come
Will sit, robed, and capped
Where you sit today,
And will ask the question
What will you do?
There is an African adage

Which fits your situation.

It is, “The trouble for the
Thief is not how to steal the Chief’s
Bugle, but where to play it.”

Are you prepared to work
To make this country, our country
More than it is today?

For that is the job to be done.
That is the reason you have
Worked hard, your sacrifices
Of energy and time,
The monies of your parents
Or of government have been paid
So that you can transform your
Country and your world.

Look beyond your tasseled caps
And you will see injustice.
At the end of your fingertips
You will find cruelties,
Irrational hate, bedrock sorrow
And terrifying loneliness.
There is your work.

Make a difference
Use this degree which you
Have earned to increase
Virtue in your world.

Your people, all people,
Are hoping that you are
The ones to do so.

The order is large,
The need immense.
But you can take heart.
For you know that you
Have already shown courage.
And keep in mind
One person, with good purpose,
can, constitute the majority.
Since life is our most precious gift
And since it is given to us to live but once,
Let us so live that we will not regret
Years of uselessness and inertia

You will be surprised that in time
The days of single-minded research
And the nights of crippling, cramming
Will be forgotten.

You will be surprised that these years of
Sleepless nights and months of uneasy
Days will be rolled into
An altering event called the
“Good old days.” And you will not
Be able to visit them even with an invitation
Since that is so you must face your presence.
You are prepared
Go out and transform your world

Welcome to your graduation.

Congratulations

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Really inspiring.... Anyways I'm glad to be back blogging, seeing as I've been AWOL for a while.
Hope everyone's doing great...:) Oh and Happy Independence Day to Nigeria..

Thanks for stopping by..

Something on my mind

Technical drawing (TD) was one of those subjects I thoroughly enjoyed in secondary school. Carrying around my TD board I prided myself as being one of ‘those TD students’. On this very day I was probably very enthustiastic about the 40 minute class we were going to have at our TD lab. We had already started learning how to draw the plans of storey buildings and how to draw staircases in the plan of a building, so I was hoping for more of that. Setting my white paper on the board, putting masking tape at the corners, I waited for the teacher to tell us what to do. Just then she brought out some pipes connected in different ways, the types you see around houses as part of the plumbing.

"Today, we are learning how to draw sections of pipes", she announced.

Huh?. Okay that didn’t sound interesting to me, but I was willing to be patient. In a matter of time we were drawing, but I was befuddled. What was the point of learning how to draw sections of pipes. I totally understood drawing plans of buildings etc and why it was important before building a house (that’s why we have architects, right?) and so I needed more clarification oh this pipe thingy. I called the attention of my teacher.

With a sort of pained look on my face I said, “Excuse me ma, but what’s the importance of this in real life. As in, why are we learning it exactly”

It was only natural that I’d ask. That’s why I was in school learning.

She stared at me like I had just said dodo was sushi, then she frowned her face.

“You are learning it so that you will pass your WAEC very well” and then she walked away, I suppose, angered.

I bent my head back to my work, amazed by what she had just told me and then anger started boiling in me too. I didn’t like the idea of not being able to apply my theoritical knowledge in real life or knowing how it helped in real life.

I lost all respect for that teacher that day, what with the realisation that she didn’t even understand what she was teaching us.

It was from then I started questioning why I was even doing technical drawing or even going along the Engineering path at all. However that did not in anyway inform my decision to switch careers to Pharmacy.. Pharmacy just called me...lol

I illustated the above, just so you get a feel of what I’m about to go on about...

Learning to pass exams, as against learning to gain knowledge, apply it in real life and contribute to development in our country.

Right from when a child is born he/she is brainwashed into thinking all knowledge gained is for the sole purpose of passing exams. I remember at the Farafina literary evening I attended, when the question was asked by a member of the audience, “Why do you think Nigerians don’t read literature enough, especially our own up-coming writers”, Binyavanga, the kenyan author answered by saying it’s probably because people see reading as for only academic purposes, like just to pass an exam in literature.People don’t see reading as an opportunity to recreate and most importantly expand ones worldview. He said from when a child is very little if the parent wants to give him a book to read at all, it’s probably because the book will help him to pass some major exams 17 years from now...lol.  “Take this book. Read it. It will help you to pass your exams”.  I laughed at that and yet it’s so true.

I remember sometime 2 years ago when I was reading Chimamanda’s ‘Thing around your neck’ while waiting for a lecturer to come in, in my class. Someone passes by me, turns the book to one side to better view the cover and says, "Ay, you and all this secondary school literature books you like reading; those days". I don’t know which one angered me more; the fact that she didn’t know who Chimamanda was or the fact that she saw my reading the book as weird, especially as it was from a Nigerian author. She didn’t think I could enjoy a Nigerian novel, just as any foreign novel and that I could read it just for leisure, not necessarily to pass an exam (considering the fact that most literature books we read in primary and secondary school were by Nigerian authors).

I know I’m jumping here and there with this post, but it’s just that many things are paining me at the same time. Why do people always think going to school is about getting good grades as against getting an education. And not just any education, total education that should involve the chosen area of discipline and other areas that help to ensure that one is an educated person.

I'm currently writing my final pharmacy exams and it is during this period I always wonder what’s even the purpose of exams. Because quite frankly what I see all around is people doing a lot of CRAMMING!! They say la cram la pour la pass. But me I say, la cram la pour la pass la not have any knowledge or be able to hold intelligent conversation and be able to make a real impact in the real world.

The one that pains me most is when some of the really good crammers turn out the best in class. If you corner some of these people and try to engage them in intelligent conversation they’ll be blank. These are people that don’t know jack about what they are studying, people that don’t lift a hand to do anything in lab practicals, but at the end of the day they miraculously turn up with results of the experiment from wherever and dub past lab notes  (gotten from people who have most likely graduated) word for word and even beg for references. Now that’s the annoying part, begging for references. How do you cite references you didn’t make use of. I do all the hardwork, research on the topic, make a good lab report and cite my references and there you are begging me to allow you cite my references. But I thought you had a brain; we have the internet, google the topic and download the PDF file, then reference it...Mscheww

Okay now, this is begining to sound like a rant. Well that’s how it’s paining me sha. I just feel in nigeria we celebrate crammers; people who cram their way through school and who graduate in some cases, yeah with First Class Degrees, but really are First Class clueless Homo Sapiens.. Okay oh, I’m not saying all First Class graduates are crammers and  I’m not saying it isn’t good to do well; I want to do extremely well oh, but compare most of our graduates from here and the ones in obodoyibo. I feel our curriculum, especially for science-based courses should include mostly practicals. I’m so in support of oral exams and independently carried out lab experiments and a practice based approach to learning. That way we can fish the really brilliant ones from the robots.

Reminds me of the Indian movie, 3 idiots. I love that movie. Chatur was a crammer ehn and graduated well, but what did he know. Ranchos on the other hand sought knowledge, KNOWLEDGE, and still did very well, in fact the best in the class!! Years later he was a great scientist with so many patents, while Chatur held a white collar job, signed cheques and lived expensively. But at the end he had to run after Ranchos for a simple signature.

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That’s why in the movie they said, “Follow excellence and success will chase you pants down”..lol...So very true. 

In Nigeria, most people are about my certificate, my certificate, trying to do better than others and even along the line breaking a few hearts. But we should be all about the knowledge, that way our country will benefit. I just hate competition. I’m in school to learn and no other. I hust hate when people think you’re trying to compete with them. My own goal is not to be a jegbe jegbe Pharmacist, but to be the type that people will be looking for- as in a 'hot cake', to come and supply well grounded drug knowledge. Not the type that will graduate with ‘the certificate’ finish and go and sell it to Igbo boys (sorry) for them to hang in their shop or the type that a patient will see coming and run away from.

In the future no one will be talking about how well you did in school, but how much impact you’ve made with the KNOWLEDGE gained.

I remember during my externship (IT) last year, a lady pharmacist I worked with who was a major hot cake. As in, people will come into the pharmacy and start asking for her. She was really knowlegeable and loved her job and with that she had helped a lot of people. But you won’t believe this same lady repeated a year in school and graduated with a 3.04 or so CGPA on a 5.0 scale. I’m in no way encouraging the getting of bad grades, because even I know this lady had her regrets about her final result, I’m just trying to show how little results say.

Exams/results are not a true evaluation of intelligence. People go through challenges during the exam period; loss of a loved one or heartbreak, an unfavourable exam time table (two 4 unit courses on the same day!!), sudden blankness in the exam hall, unavoidable time wasters etc.

Like one of my lecturers used to say, “Don’t worry yourself about getting good grades, just listen, learn and absorb, that way you relieve yourself of a lot of pressure and you still do well”

That said I think I have made my point!!!

“Follow excellence and success will chase you pants down!!!”

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I think Okechukwu Ofili mentioned something about grades and knowledge in his latest book “How laziness saved my life”.. I saw the book in my house recently. Apparently my brother bought it behind my back..lol. But I didn’t read the whole book sha, but I saw a scanned a few of the pages. I’ll still read it, but now got exams on my mind..

Feels good to be here again..:)

Phew!! What a long post... I think.

An evening with Farafina

Hiya!!

I've mentioned on this blog before how much I absolutely love Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Well what I didn't mention is, I also love anything Farafina related. For the past 4 years Farafina has organised an annual creative writing workshop sponsored by Nigerian Breweries (NB) Plc, with Chimamanda Ngozi adichie as the main facilitator. I've always wanted to attend the workshop, but time hasn't permitted to submit any piece of writing. Besides I need to polish my writing so that when I do make a submission I stand the chance of getting selected...No one likes being rejected..lol.

After the workshop, a literary evening is always organized which is open to the general public.

This year's workshop began on the 14th of August and ended yesterday 24th of August with the literary evening. I was opportune to attend the Literary Evening and I was/am still ecstatic. It was my first time of attending and I totally loved it.

Armed with the two most important things to me at that time- my camera and my copy of Chimamanda's book, 'The Thing Around Your Neck' (Half of a Yellow Sun is too big to fit into the pouch bag I carried along and Purple Hibiscus was stacked up somewhere amongst my other books far away from my reach), I made my way to the venue, Eko Hotel and Suites, Victoria Island, Lagos.

The event was billed to start at 5pm, so I was quite nervous when I still hadn't reached the venue at 15 minutes to 6pm. Finally at a little after 6pm I got to the Grand Ballroom, Eko Hotel and Suites, so sure I had missed all the fun. I was so wrong. There was a cocktail going on, and according to the usher I spoke to at the entrance, after the cocktail, the main event was to start at 6pm. I was so happy.

I took a seat happily and in no time the event was due to start. I spotted Chimamanda coming in and I immediately took a shot of her as she exchanged pleasantries with a few people. It felt good to see my mentor for real in real life..lol..

Muhtar Bakare (Farafina Trust), Chimamanda and Nicolaas Vervelde, MD/CEO NB Plc...Guess who's seated right there in front

 The M.C of the day was Iretiola Doyle of Oge with Ireti fame or more recently Tinsel (where she acts as 'Sheila')

First off was a short speech by Muhtar Bakare of Farafina Trust. Then was the presentation of certificates to the participants of this year's edition of the workshop. On introducing each participant, Chimamanda told us a bit about them and what she felt about their writing.

with the participants

After the presentation of certificates to the participants, the other three facilitators of the workshop, Binyavanga Wainaina, Jeff Allen and Rob Spillman, sat with Chimamanda on the stage. The former two read from their work after which they all engaged in conversation.

Couldn't get a better shot

Binyavanga read an excerpt from his book, 'One day I will write about this place' and the audience was in stitches as he read from it all too comically. I was forced to purchase a copy for myself at the end of the evening.

The Kenyan print version

Questions and contributions were entertained from the audience; ranging from 'What is African writing.....'?, to 'Why do you think Nigerians don't read.......'?, etc, then a bit of misguided criticism or more of a sheer display of ignorance that got what it deserved...Silence..., and lastly a valid contribution by Odia Ofemum, renowned poet and writer.

It was a blissful evening

The high point of it all was when Onyeka Onwenu took to the stage (yes, you guessed right) and got us shaking our bodies (including me, who doesn't dance in public...lol) to her rich music. She sure knows her art well. 32 years of experience no be beans.

She loves dancing oh

Chimamanda joined her and they sang beautifully in Igbo

Dancing

Chimamanda autographing my copy of her book

I had so much fun. I didn't want to leave but I had to because it was running really late.

It would sound so cliche, but I'll still say "You guys missed"..lol. Anyways I'll encourage writers and basically lovers of literature to attend the Literary Evening next time.

I'm so trying out for the workshop next year and I hope you'll do too if you're interested.

Till then I'll leave you with advice from Chimamanda, "Keep reading and keep writing" and "Make sure you write the truth and nothing but the truth" (okay she didn't put that this way sha..lol...but that was my major take home from the event in my own words.)

Thanks for stopping by
Always stay happy and optimistic....:)


*Update: Special thanks to my friend who helped with taking the last two photos, and other photos not shown here... you know yourself.. :)

Of theories, up-dos and God's will

I was in a sorta heated argument with a somebody last week and the whole wahala was "what's the definition of an intimate relationship". Now the person was/is of the opinion that an intimate relationship means a relationship in which the two people do a lot of physical touching etc and that, that's the only way a couple can bond, that's there no way a guy and girl can be in a relationship and they won't touch unless they are just friends.

My own opinion was "okay oh, hmmm...I've heard you, but the word 'intimate' is quite relative. Intimacy to me is not physical touching (it might include it oh, I dunno), but an emotional attachment of the couple to each other based on a bond developed as a result of friendship and a couple getting to know each other very well, inside out. The best relationships have a strong foundation of friendship and the good thing is that in these kind of relationships romance would definitely kick in at the appropriate God-given time in reasonable ways and end up full blown in marriage"..I now went on to state, (even though I have no statistics Oh) that "80% of the time, relationships founded on the basis of lust and physical intimacy, are doomed in marriage. As in, when all the physical touching/sexual activity is done and over done sef, what will glue the couple together when they don't have a foundation of friendship?" I feel everyone in a relationship should explore friendship with their partner first before any other thing. They should sha remember to flee from every appearance of evil.

After stating my opinion the person says that is my theory..

I rest my case.. Is this just my theory. Is it not like a major truth. Abi what I've just stated, doesn't it obtain in real life?

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In moving on to other issues, let me state first that I hate trends. Yep I do. Just because it is what's in does not mean it'll look good on everyone. People should learn to stop following and set their own trends (......oh, then someone copies and then another and the cycle continues...*sigh*...whatever. But it usually starts from copying celebs sha)

This ballerina up-do thingy is becoming too common..I can't even count how many people in my class on a certain day have an up-do, when they decide not to make their hair. Funny, as much as I hate it because it is common, I still think it looks quite pretty sometimes and especially in the picture below;

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 and in this one










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Oh and this too

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Gorgeous init?

Well, I don't see too much of gorgeous on the heads of people I have seen that spot this trend. I'm not exaggerating when I say I have seen an up-do like this:

I tried to do something with 'Paint' on my laptop...lol

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I'm seriously not exaggerating. Just can't get real pics because it will just be somehow (though I felt like snapping people's heads last week...:) ). I saw someone like this last week and I was like 'what??!!..the shape of head ehn....

The rule of thumb here is 'know the shape of your head and the LENGTH of your hair'. Just 'cause it fit Christina Milian, doesn't mean it will fit you too. Better still, fix in a weave so it looks full and much more pretty. Or just stay away from it!

Okay Oh... Now to a much more serious issue...

Have you ever felt like God is telling you to do something and you know it's good for you, but you're like 'Big guy', what's your own now. I'm really on the right path now'. It's really hard to  succumb to God's will for us sometimes. The simplest way I see it is like a father telling a child to do his homework oh,' face your book oh', but the child is always grumpy and refuses to go his father's way and prefers to play suwe with his friends. What the child does not know is that, his father has great plans for his future and he knows that if he (the child) heeds his (the father's) word and does well consistently, one day he might get a scholarship to study at Harvard.
That's the way I see it, but sometimes it's so hard to yield to God's will even when you know he's infallible and he will never lead you along the wrong path.. I'm still learning everyday and it's not easy, but by God's grace I shall succeed,


This was nice. Feels good to be back here :)

Wish y'all a lovely holiday.

Dem say, dem say

Have you been trying to apply for that job but ‘you heard‘ that no one can get a job in that place you are applying to unless they have ‘leg‘?..,

Have you been considering taking that new course but you heard that ‘they said‘ it is difficult and people always fail, infact no one has ever had an A?

Or

Have you been contemplating sending the first draft of your novel to that publishing house, but you heard they ‘don‘t just accept stories like that‘?...

My dear friend, my message to you today is don‘t be discouraged whatever you are working at (whether it‘s part of the examples I cited above or not), don‘t listen to everything that people say because they most likely heard it from someone else, who heard from someone else.

Most people are just ignorant.
And some people will never see anything good in what you are doing and are most likely out to discourage you.

If there‘s one thing I‘ve learnt in this life, it‘s that there‘s nothing you cannot do.
Things don‘t always happen the same way. If you never try something you‘d never know what result it will yield.
I‘m sure most people can relate with stories of ‘maths is hard‘ from our primary and/or secondary school days. From what I‘ve seen, this preconceived idea moulded a lot of people‘s view about maths and they were not willing to even try at all to ace the subject.

As for me I don‘t listen to what people say without trying things out myself.

I‘m currently at a stage in my life where I‘m preparing to take major exams for entry into pharmacy internship programs and all I‘m hearing left, right and center is ‘do you know anyone?‘, ‘you won‘t get in without connection‘, blah blah.. It all sounds like a bit of hogwash to me. I‘ve at least answered a couple of times that ‘I know God‘. At most I just smile and keep quiet.

I‘m not bothered because it is the same thing I‘ve been hearing for a long time. Some people are even under the impression that I/my parents must have known some ‘somebodies‘ with how far I‘ve come in life.

It‘s funny how once, someone dropped their WAEC and JAMB result with my dad for him to ‘help‘ them with their admission into Uni, at a time in my life when my parents were busy praying for my admission into the same University the person was applying to. I won‘t forget how my dad left those documents on a shelf where they gathered dust for a looong time. Needless to say, the person got in, but without my dad‘s supposed help

I don‘t know anybody o.
I just know I try and I don‘t get discouraged. If 80% enter by ‘leg‘, then no wahala, I‘ll be part of the 20% that enter by brain and most importantly by the grace of God.

Shikena!!

Feels good to be back here...:)

Wish you all a lovely weekend and stay blessed.

Age is just a number

My all time favourite Nigerian soap is Tinsel, which is currently in it's 4th season showing on DSTV's Africa Magic Entertainment, Channel 128.

Tinsel Cast

Two of my favourite characters are Emil Haruna and Angela Dede.
I just love the love they share in some ways. But wait Oh, I'm thinking does this kind of love happen in real life.

Okay lemme do a brief summary of their love story for those who don't understand what I'm talking about. So, Emil is Angela's boss's son. He is attracted to Angela and begins to fall in love with her despite her mental instability and all. She acts like she doesn't like him but gradually her feelings for him start to show. They start getting really serious. Emil's mum finds out about this relationship, but she's not happy. She calls Angela to her office and tells her to stay away from Emil, revealing that her son is just 17.

Angela runs mad (madder than she already is...lol). She didn't know Emil was underage. I mean the guy owns his own business and looks like he's in his late 20s. Apparently, as she finds out later he's just a precocious teenager who  likes older women, like Angela who is 30!!
Emil is persistent and insists he loves Angela. He even moves in with her for a while when his mother throws him out for being a disobedient child.
Finally Emil turns 18 and he and Angela hit it off again and this time even stronger. It seems like their love is made in heaven.

So you gerrit?

Now, while Emil and Angela's story looks good on-screen, I can't help but wonder "does such happen in real life?". Like Emil's mother put it (although exaggerated), Angela is practically twice Angela's age. My opinion on this is, this doesn't happen in real life.
I give kudos to the tinsel crew for telling us such a story and keeping me entertained every week...love you mucho...but me I can't danwo, I can't try that oh

Some proponents of 'Age is just a number' will insist it's okay as long as both parties have mutual respect for each other.
I feel, over time, the guy would start to lose interest in the woman. Also, the woman might begin to have some self-esteem issues and also feel the need to guard her man from younger women. There will be some other issues involved, including both families' acceptance of the union (if they plan on getting married) etc. And although we shouldn't make decisions based on what others think, but we should also put in mind that the society will also frown against such a union.
I feel if at all the woman is older than the man, it should be a maximum of 2 years abeg. It's just somehow. Well what do I know.

Anyways, there's nothing you will not see in a soap opera. I suspect they will still break up sef (Emil and Angela)..we shall see.

Does anyone know of such relationships in real life? Please lemme know o

In another news...
I came across this video on Myne's blog some time ago and I've been hooked since then. Dunno why o. But I just love the song ehn..And I thought I should share

Enjoy Oko mi by Ju Spice