Thursday, 23 January 2014


If you think too much about doing something you just never might get it done.
I've been thinking about what to post since all these days, but I just had to stop and give it a go anyway.


You hear stories about the passport office in Nigeria and then you get scared to go there and get a new passport or renew your old one. My memories of the Ikoyi passport office when I was younger were that of a sandy area, people crowded on dirty benches under a tattered canopy, uniformed men and women carrying files and walking about, 'agberos' lurking around, sweat and maybe tears and long days spent going to check back for your passport.

So imagine my fear when I realised my passport was going to expire soon and I would need to get a new one. I just got depressed instantly. Moreso as I knew I would have to do it all by myself. It was in the past that we all  (my parents and siblings) went as a family. I started making a mountain out of a molehill, worrying over how I would get a renewed passport without exchanging bribe or having to wait for days. I was really worried especially as I was not ready to do anything the illegal way. I went on google and read web page after web page about anything on getting a passport in Nigeria; people's experiences, how they got cheated, how long it took to get their passport e.t.c..

Finally, I summoned courage and went to the passport office/Nigerian Immigration Service(NIS) at Ikeja. Thanks to my friend who helped with directions. I was surprised because it looked nothing like I had seen before in their Ikoyi office. Interlocking blocks had been laid all over the compound neatly, people sat comfortably under a very good canopy and inside the office on comfortable chairs. No touts lurked around and the officers were organised and the atmosphere was very peaceful. The end of the long story is that I got my new passport in one day without sweat or tears.

Hmm.. Will it be safe to say things are getting better or am I dreaming?


Totally unrelated to my story above, I've learnt one great lesson since this year started- not to talk too much about what you are doing, what you are planning to do or what's going on in your life with everyone, because;

1. Some people won't just get it and their ignorance can discourage if not anger you,
2. Some people don't really care and their disinterest could possibly make you feel bad,
3. Some people will discourage you outright with their snide comments and all, so you are better off shutting up,
4. Some people are just looking for gist and you are providing them with gist,
5. If you share too much about what's going on in your life, one day you might regret why you ever shared it.

When you know you really want something think it through very well, pray about it to God, write down plans on how to execute it and act before it's too late. That's the most important part- acting, not just dreaming.

And if you must share your dreams at all, let it be with a person or people you trust completely, whose opinion you value and who would tell you the truth without sentiment or any ill-feeling towards you.

I remember this from Tyler Perry's list- "40 at 40"

"Don't share your dreams with everyone and don't be angry with non-dreamers"

Even if it's a dream as little as doing the big chop (cutting your hair) and going In that case you might just hear rude comments like "you'll be very ugly". Do it anyway if that's what YOU WANT!

Anyway, I'm talking about other dreams...:)

Follow your dreams, don't be scared and you'll see how much you'll benefit and remember to pay no heed to the naysayers.

It might get tough along the way but keep keeping on and surround yourself with positive-thinking intelligent people.

If it's really what you want, go for it; but always remember to seek God's opinion.

"A man's mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps"- Proverbs 16:9

See y'all later. I'm out.

Love, ay.

Saturday, 4 January 2014

New Year. Things to be grateful for..

Happy new year everyone!!

How were the holidays? I trust you had a great time. I did.

Since entering this new year, I've had cause to look back and reflect on the past year and things I am thankful for in that year..

Firstly, I'm thankful for the gift of the family. This past Christmas, I learnt the importance of having a family and reconnecting with relatives from far and near as often as possible. I learnt that really, "a family that prays together stays together." Prayer keeps us close and helps us to be open about so many things we would never have imagined being open about. By taking turns to say prayers and by listening to each person pray we learn more about our struggles, the things that make us happy and with it all we become closer.

I'm thankful for the gift of friendship. I made new friends last year and I learnt how to be more open and share my feelings with other people.

I'm thankful for successful completion of my degree and subsequent completion of internship.

I'm thankful for the gift of writing and Blogger

I'm thankful for all those that read my blog posts last year (silent readers acknowledged :D ) and those who commented; especially those whose comments kept me grinning from ear to ear (like Toye's comment). Simply getting a notification on my phone that a new comment had been made on a blog post, is one of the things that usually made my day and kept me excited.

So much to be thankful for. I wish I could go on and on, but it would end up being a really long post.

Basically 2013 was a really awesome year. Like I said before in my last post, I grew in all spheres in 2013. Really! The best year ever! I'm hoping 2014 is even more awesome.

The year 2014 is already starting to fly No time to waste.

Have you made new year resolutions? Most people don't like to. Put simply, is there something or are there some things you want to achieve this year? Then go for it. You can't afford to be sitting on your butt and waiting for things to be handed out to you.. Act!

Remember; "You can't make footprints in the sands of time if you're sitting on your butt. And who wants to make buttprints in the sands of time?"- Bob Moawad

See y'all later.

Love, ay.