Saturday, 29 June 2013

'Their' fault not mine.....


It's very easy as humans to make a habit of always blaming others for things that happen to us or around us.

"Nothing works in this country. It' the fault of our corrupt leaders...."

"Work is really stressful. My boss hates me and hands out all the work to me...."

"These people are so incompetent. They are the ones drawing us back...."

I've been pondering lately and I observe that most times the things we tend to blame others for, we are guilty of as well. And sometimes what we complain of might just be part of our imagination. It's really a pain to sit down around someone that keeps whining and going on and on about how the world is against them and everyone else is at fault for something. These kind of people have refused make a decision to be responsible for the choices they make and how they are affected by these choices, I think.

And really no one is perfect. It's easy to blame everyone for something and not recognise you are doing the same thing. A lot of people complain about their boss being incompetent, 'wicked', and blame them for certain other things, even me. But if we sit down and analyze things we would realise that if placed in the same position, same situation most people will do worse and be even more horrible bosses.

A lot of people complain about corruption and how nothing works In this country. But when placed in charge of even the smallest tasks at work or placed in a certain position people act out exactly what they are complaining of and they make it look like it's no big deal, "afterall it's just a small thing". And so it remains a vicious circle. Corrupt employees/corrupt citizens one day become corrupt leaders. 

If something is not working right, instead of complaining and pointing fingers, quit whining, get busy and be part of a positive change. And don't say you won't carry out your own work because others aren't carrying out theirs, because that's exactly where the problem is. Do your own part, carry out your duties dilligently and try to see the good in other people first. We are all human anyways.

*** Post inspired by happenings at work.

Thursday, 13 June 2013

Words on paper.....attempt at poetry

Is it pain? I Know that feeling all too well.
Is it sadness? It flows through my veins.
The many tears shed? I've shed a billion.

Life sucks, sometimes.

The choices I make , I'm responsible for them.
The hurt I feel, my choice .
I can choose to feel hurt or not by whatever fate deals me.

It's my happiness that matters most.

It seems no one cares;
No ping, no call, no text message.
Not even a hug smiley.

Happiness is a choice. Life is short.

Taking each day as it comes and revelling in the pleasantness of the little things.
Things that most people pay no attention to.
Things that hold much more value than it seems they do.

Sunday, 9 June 2013

Take charge and follow my dreams or cower in fear


Procastinating and giving up, two things I am trying not to get used to nowadays. There are so many things I want to do, want to achieve, so many things I want to write, but I get so overwhelmed by the thoughts of "it's not the right time", or "you're better off not doing that now".

I really want to get stuff done anyway, because time is going and I am not getting younger :). I have been wanting to apply to the Farafina Trust Creative Writing Workshop for some years now, but I've always had excuses of schoolwork or examinations or just wrong timing. I decided recently that I can't keep waiting for the 'right time' and will just apply anyway this year, even though I'm not sure if I'll get picked, or if I'll be given time off from work. I did a google search and looked up the calibre of writers that have gotten picked for past workshops and I'm thinking will I even be able to measure up to such quality etc.

I refuse to think like this jare.

"Fear is the dark room where all of your negatives are developed, so why not look at the brighter side of life"... Joyce Meyer, The Confident Woman.

I hadn't really planned ahead for this, so for now I'm fishing out some of my old writing and doing a bit of polishing. Submission deadline is Wednesday. I'm not going to run away from that send'll send that email and wait for whatever may come.

Trying to be positive...

I had a beautiful weekend. What about you? Work continues tomorrow ..:(

Funny photo..:D

Monday, 3 June 2013

We haven't forgotten- June 3rd 2012

This day last year, a Sunday, was the day the unfortunate incident of the Dana Airlines plane crash occured in Lagos. It was a really sad and grave occurence and I can only imagine what the families of the affected might still be going through. That day can't be forgotten in such a hurry.

I pray that the souls of all the faithful departed will continue to rest in peace and that God will continue to grant their families the heart to bear their loss..

Rest well in the bosom of the Lord, dear ones..




"Tears are a tribute to our deceased friends. When the body is sown, it must be watered. But we must not sorrow as those that have no hope; for we have a good hope through grace both concerning them and concerning ourselves."- Matthew Henry
Peace and love. xxx